That Man…is not your Man. I wanted to post him, but you know what? He might be your man too. But finally, he asked me out. It was a date. Just the two of us. Him and I. I anticipated for the, ‘pick me at 9 pm holding flowers in his arms’, and sure enough. He did.

Talk about the delicacies at Banyan Tree Samui resort. I ordered a Chicken Tikka Masala with Crispy Sided Fingers. His was a plate I knew nothing about. But what I'm sure about, he wasn’t satisfied. By now you should have figured out that I’m a foodie. Who eats a main dish before an appetizer? Who does that?

Anyway, gurl…or…buoyy…(I mean, lovely reader)...We know the rule right?

The CAMERA must eat first!

Tell me why, this man will touch the food before the camera. Like he didn’t know the ritual. I slapped his hand out of the plate. He was startled.

Starting to videograph, we prayed while holding hands and locked eyes. Beautiful it seemed, but I had to capture every moment on camera. Quite foreseeable that this ‘camera’ thing will be the center of our misunderstanding.

Men…Come forward…let’s talk:

You’ve ever taken your girl on a date and she takes pictures of everything including you. But when she posts, you'll never find your face on them. Or if you do, a well crafted emoji will be patched on your face. Brutal right? The worst part, she’ll post your shoes together, hands holding. Or if you have a beard (lucky you), at least a part of your face will do (appear).

Honestly, I don’t understand this new culture of hiding the person you love. Like He’s contraband. A woman posts a man but blurs his face. Someone explain to me like I’m five, why do women do that?

I got the answers:

Woman A: It's soft launch season. I needed a Pinterest Boyfriend. I mean a good looking boyfriend. But the men (or the man) I dated were (was) ugly. There’s no need of posting jumpscares on Instagram. We're keeping it private. Plus, I wouldn’t block my future husband for my current boyfriend. Because he's (future husband) still trying to find his missing rib, which is ME.

Woman B: Let me be brutally honest with you, I wouldn’t even post a ‘Missing Person’ flyer of my man if he disappeared. Because, when you are with him, he is yours, but when he leaves, he belongs to wengine na wengineo wengi.

Reminds me of Breeder LW line, “That p*** ain’t mine it’s just my turn”

(food for thought)

Woman C: I don’t need opinions from my online in-laws on a relationship that might not last till Christmas. I just realised ‘utagongewa’ wasn’t just meant for women alone. But when you post, Be prepared to get feedback (the ones you wanted and not).

Anyways,

“Shout out to those men who take us on dates but don't get to be posted”

And my Man, thank you to my Man.

Mungu bariki wengine sasa eey😍😍! Utaniua na Baraka

Comments (3)

• Lokumu

  November 1, 2025

  Life's private I'd say...what we make public or private is rather a personal decision 😀

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• Davis Maulo

  October 29, 2025

  A very insightful post. Just in a dilemma of the evils women do. The post is pretty cool. Just another day to fear women 😂💔. Can't wait to read more of this. A well done post

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• 🍫LEE🦋

  October 29, 2025

  🤣🤣🤣This had me laughing the whole time.This blog is hilarious and so relatable since it feels natural and full of life ❤️❤️.Can’t wait to read more of your amazing work🌟✨💫.

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